Disagreeing with others
Do you ever find yourself disagreeing with others? Or maybe you find yourself disagreeing with yourself? Perhaps you’ll agree that disagreement is pretty much an indication that we are very much in non-agreement or strongly dislike of something in its current reality. It is also saying that on some level, we may think that others should change or refrain from acting or thinking as they are currently demonstrating. It is important for us to remember, that if we find situations offensive or confrontational, it is an opportunity for us to examine our thinking and begin changing what we are holding in mind. Our thoughts, beliefs and reactions are what are really important, because in reality, we can only take responsibility for how we are feeling.
The word disagreement suggests controversy, difficulty, a matter of dispute, opposing views, and also non-mutual or in conflict. Surely none of this is not what we would like experience. If we are disagreeing or disliking a particular situation, it is reasonable for us to consider that we are also unknowingly acting in somewhat of a judgmental fashion. Whenever something is disturbing to us, it is showing us what we are holding in mind. Whatever is disturbing to us, is also expressing that we are being bothered; and that the situation is displeasing to us. So therefore the issue being presented is external to us; and how we are feeling about it is internal. These are two different realities.
Most people admit they don’t like feelings or situations that are awkward or confrontational. So what do we do when we feel challenged or in disagreement with others or perhaps with our self? Accept that whatever the situation is, it is coming into our awareness because there is a lesson we need to learn or positively resolve. Just by saying to our self, “I can deal with this situation” or “Everything will work out Ok” is being positive.
If we are responding negatively, we are prolonging our feeling awkward or uncomfortable. Everything that happens to us is based on our thoughts, of which we decided at a previous time. If we are in disagreement for any reason, it is only because we have a deeper level of conflict coming into our awareness. The current situation may be showing us we are in AGFLAP, fear, or resistance. It may also be showing us that we are in some way wanting to change something, or perhaps wanting to figure things out. Trust that neither wanting to change the situation or figuring things out works. Figuring things out keeps us spinning in the mind.
The good news is we can change how we feel about the situation by changing what we are holding in mind. Whatever the situation or disturbance that we are challenged by is also showing us an indication of an attachment or aversion. The situation may also be pointing out a habit or program that we need to face. All of these examples are expressions or out projections of what we are holding in mind. If we can recognize our own feelings and begin responding positively, we can review the situation from a non-attached viewpoint. We do this by examining our thinking and making corrections. We can decide to stop being bothered or feeling awkward and begin moving forward. We can decide to move into the energy of courageousness, acceptance and peace. We can also choose to take responsibility for what has occurred and how we are feeling.
By holding in mind what we would like to have or experience, we can more easily make better decisions. In a sense we are agreeing to let go of hanging onto feeling stuck or challenged. Each time we elect to take responsibility for our feelings, or the manner in which we react, helps us to be aligned in positive energy. Each time we look within ourselves for the cause of a disturbing situation we are increasing our level of discernment.
All feelings or situations are coming into our awareness so we can identify what is bothersome so we can align ourselves in harmony. Decide that when you are in disagreement with anyone, and for any reason, that you are willing to look at the situation and work towards a positive resolution. Be willing to let go of wanting to be right or protecting yourself with fear. Disagreement always works for the ego. If you see or sense you are in disagreement with yourself or others, please see this and immediately begin applying positive energy towards the situation. Apply love, common sense, and a healthy dose of acceptance. Give yourself permission to experience something better. Ask yourself, “Could this situation get even better?” Or perhaps by asking yourself, “What is the best thing that can occur as a result of this current situation?” will help you look at the situation from a different perspective. Be willing to let go and move forward. Remember, “Whatever we resist, will persist. Move from “I can’t!” to I can!” Love is the answer.