Hold On… Or let go…

Purging things out of our life by cleaning out closets, the garage, or filing cabinet are always wonderful ways of moving forward.  In choosing to clean out areas of our life, we are deciding that we can be free of those unwanted items.  We may choose to donate or sell some of our things or perhaps we just throw the items away.  Either way, we are Ok, and ready to be done with those things as they no longer are needed.  We can easily discard of the things that we feel are no longer in need or value just by making a decision.  Notice once we’ve committed to doing one or more of the above listed tasks, that in a relatively short period of time the task was completed.  The closet is now cleared of unwanted clothing or shoes.  The garage is now clean and uncluttered.  The filing cabinet is also neat and organized.  And, if we are really motivated, we may have a garage sale, and use some of the items we cleared allowing us to profit in an even bigger way.  What’s nice in letting go of things is that we always feel better.  Cleaning out the closet or garage involves doing something other than contemplating or complaining.  When we feel inspired, we can accomplish anything.  And once the task is completed, we feel satisfied.

Removing of items that are no longer needed is a form of letting go.  Perhaps you can remember throwing away things from a job previously occupied by another employee, or maybe you have thrown away items from an ex girlfriend or boyfriend. It feels good!  In clearing away things that are no longer of use to us, is allowing us to make room for new things to enter our lives.  If by chance you are holding onto an ex-girlfriend or boyfriend’s picture in your wallet, or maybe items of their clothing in your closet, now is probably a good time to remove those items from your space.  This habit of holding on is coming from a position of lack.  When we hold onto past relationships, it keeps us stuck in a cycle of unhappiness.  By holding on, we are wishing things could be different.  We are filled with regrets.  We very much want to change what happened. Holding on and waiting for someone to return is playing a foolish game.  If the relationship ended, it is an indication that you both were ready to move on.  The person may return… or may not.  Either way, you have to let go of holding on.  Living your life in waiting… isn’t living.  Accept what occurred and be willing to move on.  When we honestly look at being independent of a job or relationship it’s somewhat intimidating because on some level we became attached to that relationship for security.  It is Ok to let go.  This excerpt provided by Anonymous may give you some long overdue peace of mind.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  Believe it!  It is real!  But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons:  things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

The above excerpt is pointing out different decisions that we have made about our relationships.  It is saying that by letting go is about loving yourself.  When we let go of relationships, careers, or sending the children to kindergarten, day camp, college, into adulthood, and also into marriage and having families of their own, be sure to send each person or situation, a journey filled with good wishes.  Thank each person for their love, their support, their guidance.  Encourage them to do their best!  Whether you realize it or not, each person that is currently in your life or to those that have come and gone, or yet to appear, has helped you to learn and grow.

By holding onto things or emotions causes us to feel miserable.  So regardless if you are holding onto slacks that are several sizes too small or items from a relationship that ended some time ago, do yourself a favor and begin to remove those items from your life. Happiness comes from within.  If you aren’t happy within, trust that no one and no-thing can make you happy.  The only person that can make you happy is YOU!  Deciding to move forward is a willingness to let go.  It’s Ok to take baby steps.  Take each day, one at a time.  The only reason we take baby steps is because we are afraid.  Well, the truth of the matter is, when we love ourselves, is when real love begins.  We can’t share with another something we don’t have for ourself.  Instead of living in regret, begin each day with an intention to enjoy the day.  Regardless if the ending includes a relationship, a job, leaving an organization, or perhaps leaving a community, how you feel about those endings is completely up to you.  Remember, we get to choose how we feel at all times.

If you will take a moment and notice what you are holding onto about past situations, it will reveal a lot about your current situation.  You are the only one that can give yourself permission to move forward.  Give yourself permission to do something else…, to be something else, or to have something other than misery and unhappiness.  The Release® Technique system helps us to let go of the unhealthy habit of holding onto the past.  If we are holding onto the past, we aren’t living in the present.  If we are in a current relationship and still waiting for someone from a past relationship to return, we are not enjoying our present relationship.  If we are in a job that we dislike, we aren’t enjoyable to be around.  What we put out, is what we get back.  Anytime we let go we always feel better.  Please visit our website at:  http://www.releasetechnique.com/ and see that you aren’t alone in feeling uncertain.  Many folks have let go of their limiting beliefs and have successfully lost weight, quit smoking, and also overcame issues with their health or body image.  Their sense of self esteem was greatly enhanced.  Folks have increased their financial income without exerting more energy.  Other folks have ventured into satisfying relationships at work and at home.  And for some, letting go meant that they gave up their grief and sadness.  For this reason alone, it is worthy to know that there is something that can help us to let go of unhealthy emotions and expectations.  Classes are held throughout the country or you can choose to order CDs to learn this incredible system of letting go of the past.  Try it, you’ll like it!