Moving beyond NO!
Remember as a kid asking your parents questions and their looking at you in a funny way and answering exactly as you predicted. Think about some of your own responses to these questions: Are we there yet? Is dinner ready? Thinking back there seemed to also be lots of responses that included ‘No!’ ‘Uh-uh!’ ‘I don’t think so?!’ Certainly you may have also heard plenty of responses that included, ‘Maybe…?’ At times some responses may have included, ‘We’ll see.’ How about hearing a response of ‘I don’t know…?’ Or perhaps you’ve heard the suggestion, ‘Ask your mother… (or father).’ Perhaps at other times, your parents responded with, ‘Why are you asking me these ridiculous questions?’ Seriously many of us grew up listening to comments that included everything imaginable, except hearing a simple “Yes!” So now that we are adults, with or without children of our own, we are still sidestepping offering or receiving a direct response of “Yes!” You see on some level, when we asked a question, we subconsciously expected to hear a ‘NO’ or some other limiting answer and that’s what we encountered. And when the response of ‘No!’ became a reality, we immediately became disappointed or blameful; although usually didn’t remember that we got what we were holding in mind.
Although we are now adults, we still haven’t yet recognized that we are continuing to sidestep a direct response of “YES” because in all honesty we don’t fully believe that “Yes, is available to us. Just in identifying this way of behaving and looking at this all too familiar issue, may cause us to feel a sense of guilt or remorse. It’s time to give yourself permission to believe that you CAN have, be, or do anything that you would like to experience. There are no limitations if we aren’t holding limitations in mind. The practice of responding with “Yes, I can!” is perhaps the greatest skill anyone can learn. Anytime we respond with a “Yes!” we are aligning ourselves in the realm of being positive. “Yes!” suggests, the thing or experience that we are interested in having, doing, or being is possible and available to us. Saying “Yes!” is moving outside of our comfort zone. “Yes!” is demonstrating a willingness to excel in a manner that is important to us. Think about something that you were unwilling to settle without having. Maybe it was having a new bicycle… getting a great pair of shoes or incredible handbag… or buying the perfect home. Whenever we set our sights on something that we absolutely must have, we will always find a way to accomplish our goal. Saying “yes” is something we do know and understand, although at times we aren’t always motivated to say “Yes!”
Whenever we respond in an ambiguous manner, it is because we are allowing fear or resistance to intimidate us. Without realizing it, many of us sabotage our level of success by automatically saying ‘No!’ We do this because on a subconscious level we are afraid to win or succeed, so we opt to play it safe. We turn away from what we would like to have, do, or be in hopes that we won’t have to experience rejection, failure, or regret; without realizing that we have rejected ourselves. Although this sounds simplistic, it actually is representative of the way the mind works. If you’ll take a moment and look at something you walked away from or denied yourself in having, you may actually see it was because of fear or resistance. If this object or experience causes you to feel uncomfortable, it is showing you that this issue is still an unresolved matter that you never really let it go. Moving beyond ‘No!’ begins with a decision. The decision is to practice saying “Yes!” By responding with “Yes!” you are helping yourself to become unstuck. You are willing to take responsibility for past and future endeavors. You are willing to let go of believing you are unworthy to have, do, or be something other than what exists in your current situation. Say “Yes!” and watch things miraculously transform from negative to positive. It is possible to retrain ourselves to be more positive. Positive always includes uplifting, joyful and harmonious outcomes. Positive always attracts positive! In regards to negative, negative can only attract negative as this is a law of nature. Decide to move forward by saying “Yes!”