By definition the word judgment suggests: an act or instance of judging. It also states – forming an opinion, estimate, notion, or conclusion. Opinions are listed as: a personal view, attitude, or appraisal with a belief that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty. No one ever says things like, “Oh being judged feels good!” So if judging causes us and/or others to feel bad, we are creating stress for ourselves. Our judgment(s) of another is actually our judgment of our self. Believe it or not… “How we see the world, is how we see our self!”
Any time we judge someone or something causes us to feel stressed. Negative judgments that we hold in mind, or speak out loud, are always non-loving. By commenting on things that appear to be “wrong” or “problematic,” is being negative. The saying, “What comes around, goes around!” is clearly expressing that we are asking for trouble. Another way of saying this is by looking at the phrase, “You’ll catch more flies with honey, than with vinegar.” This phrase implies that by being sweet or nice creates better outcomes without effort. The vinegar in this example refers to negative intentions or unrealistic expectations.
If we think, “We are better than others,” or perhaps think “Others are better than us,” we are giving away our power. Actually, when we are judging, our opinions are prideful. If ‘we think’ that someone is better than us, we are creating that reality. Because we don’t feel we measure up, we get to be right. By seeing someone as superior, we are comparing ourselves negatively. Judgments hurt. Limited thinking prevents us from being successful. Don’t believe me… just imagine telling someone that you think they are an idiot. If ‘we think’ someone is an idiot, it is a clear indicator that we are out of control. What’s worse is by expressing our negative thought(s) out loud, we are creating an even bigger problem. When we hold in mind, that someone is an idiot, even though we didn’t say it out loud, they intuitively pick up on that thought and begin to treat us unfavorably. Their reaction towards us causes us to feel offended. We now blame them for their behavior; without remembering that we created the entire situation by judging them first as being an idiot. Our judgment moved us away from being in control and achieving a positive result. In truth, nothing good ever comes from by judging or being negative. When we let go of judging, we simply experience and easily enjoy more peaceful interactions with the folks in our lives. Less judgment equals less stress. If you notice how many negative thoughts or judgments you have for just one day, you will begin to see what you are really holding in mind. Stress can be eliminated by changing your thoughts and by stopping your judgment of others. Change your mind and your life changes!