How to Find Love
“I was looking for love in all the wrong places. Looking for love in too many faces. Searching your eyes, looking for traces, of what… I’m dreaming of… Hopin’ to find a friend and a lover, God bless the day I discover, another heart, lookin’ for love…”
You probably recognize the words from the Waylon Jennings song. Isn’t that how many of us in this world spend our entire life? Looking for love in too many faces.
We are looking for love exactly where it is not, out there. Maybe when we lay in that crib with those doting adults hovering over us, maybe that’s when we first decided love is out there. Maybe that was when we decided to find love, to get love, to be loved, we have to get it out there. We have to get it from someone, they have to give it to us. And, if we can’t get someone to love us, we live in misery and constant wanting, looking for love in all the wrong places.
Lester Levenson made a discovery in 1952. He found, by deep and honest introspection, that when he was looking for love, when he wanted love from others, when he wanted to be loved, he was sick, and miserable and suffering. When he wanted to be loved he was living in negativity.
…love is an attitude of givingness…
Lester found that the times in his life when he was loving, he was positive, happy, healthy and wealthy.
Lester saw when we want to be loved, we are into wanting something from someone. We want them to love us so we can feel good. Lester saw that this is the opposite of love. He saw that it was non-loving to want someone to love us.
He saw that love is an attitude of givingness, of givingness to another, with no thought of receiving anything in return. Love is wanting the other person to have what they want even though we may not be able to give it to them.
Upon making this discovery, Lester set out to rid himself of, to release, all of his non-loving feelings. When he let go of all of his non-loving feelings, what was left was the all-loving infinite being that he had always been, his body was healed, his entire life was healed. Lester has shown us the way. To find love, we have to look inside and we have to release. The more we release, the more we uncover that natural, loving, infinite being that we are, always have been, always will be.
We are, right now, 100% loving, 100% positive covered up by negative feelings called AGFLAP, our wanting approval, wanting control and wanting to be safe. As long as we are into wanting, we are non-loving and we feel a lack of love. We think we can get love out there and we find more AGFLAP because Love is NOT out there. It is right here in our very own nature right now.
…to find love, we have to look inside…
We search around in all those eyes and then one day we spot someone who we “fall in love with.” We find someone just like ourselves. We find someone who wants love and we want love from them. We have what we call a relationship. We soon discover that this other person doesn’t have love to give us because they want us to give love to them. Uh oh, we don’t have love, we want the other person to give us love. So, we have two people, both of which want love from the other one and each not having it to give to another.
Is it any wonder we have such a high rate of divorce, so many family problems, so much anger and frustration? We are looking for love in all the wrong places.
We do not have to go anywhere to find all the love in the universe. All we have to do is open up to the all-loving being that we really are. To do that, we do what Lester did. We sit down and we begin to let go of our non-loving feelings; the first one of which is wanting to be loved, wanting approval. We look inside and we release all those negative, wanting, non-loving—disapproval—feelings. And, as we do, we find we are becoming more loving—actually, we are not really becoming more loving—we are just opening up to the natural all-loving being that we are, always have been, always will be.
That is what we do when we Release. When we Release, we are letting go of all that we are not, the non-loving being that we are not. We are letting go of negativity. For each unit of Negativity we release we open ourselves up more to the positive, loving being that we are. And by and by we discover, we do not need anything, we ARE love and we are the All. It is only when we turn away from that, when we forget, and we think love is somewhere out there and we have to go and find it, that we move into desire and thus become miserable and suffering.
So, we have to wake up. It isn’t easy because we have had a habit for a long, long time of chasing love where it isn’t. We have had a habit for a long time of looking for love out there. We wake up, we release and release and release and we see, there is nothing to do, there is nowhere to go, all the love in the universe is right here, right where we are. We are that right now.
Make a decision in favor of being happy all the time.
Make a decision to release and realize the All-Loving being that each of us are. And, as Lester tells us, just love, love, love and we will have everything.