What is change? And why are we so afraid of making changes? – Part II
Change is only for the purpose of making better decisions that agrees with what we are interested in doing or having, or not doing or not having. If we look at the process of change more closely, logically we can see that some changes require more time and consideration. Certainly things like planning to relocate, changing jobs or career path, or continuing education requires time and thoughtfulness to accomplish any of these elections. However, if the changes we would like to make aren’t initiated within a reasonable time, it maybe because we are allowing fear to intimidate us. Fear is always based on a past occurrence. Think about this for a moment. If one is holding onto concerns such as “I can’t…! Or, I better not…” Or perhaps has a belief such as “Maybe next time…” those thoughts will prevent most people from moving forward and taking action. Clearly if we are responding hesitantly about making decisions, it may be because at a previous time we experienced an unfavorable outcome regarding a similar choice. That past incident may cause us to believe we should proceed cautiously. If we are also offering excuses, we have already made the decision we aren’t interested. In truth unless we get bigger than our objections, and look at the positive benefits of achieving our goal, our goal will remain outstanding on our to-do list (assuming it actually made it to the list).
When we are fueling thoughts based in fear, we are in a sense making the fear bigger. Some folks refer to this philosophy as making mountains out of molehills. The fear is a perception. In actuality, fear is simply an emotion. Fear exists because that is what we are holding in mind or focusing our attention on. Simply by making better decisions–allows us to have better outcomes. Every time we view our goals as possible, we are moving closer to what we would like to accomplish. If we make it a point to do something every day that is bringing us closer towards our achieving our goal, (no matter how big or small), those steps will help us to continue moving towards completing the goal. Keep giving yourself mini-targets to attain. It’s Ok to take small steps in order to keep on target. Envision your goals being achieved in a positive manner.
As we continue to move forward, we are creating momentum which is helping us to achieve our goal sooner. At the end of each day be certain to give yourself credit for all that was accomplished in relation to achieving the goal. In other words, take a few minutes to be in gratitude. Each step forward is challenging past fears. Each step is moving forward in a positive way. Notice when you are saying, “I can do this! I will do this! Yes! Sure, why not!” you are moving closer to having your desired outcome. These types of decisions are aligning you in being more successful. These are tremendous gains to recognize. Change your mind and everything begins to change as you have decided. Change is really up to you.