How often do we do something that we really don’t want to do? More often than we realize. We do things we would rather not do because we are looking for approval. Most likely we began wanting our parents’ approval; then our teachers and friends’ approval; then our spouse/partner, boss, co-workers, extended family members, adult friends, neighbors, community members and others’ approval. Oh my! This pattern shows us that we are in need of the approval from everyone. Acting in this way is exhausting and creating huge amounts of resentment that we carry around with us because we haven’t found a way to stop doing things we don’t want to do. We don’t like it (aversion) and yet we keep repeating this pattern with everyone we interact with (attachment) because, “How we do anything, is how we do everything!” Most likely we are giving into others because of guilt and fear. See for yourself, who pushes your buttons and has you agree to do things you don’t want to do. Well the person that pushes your buttons more than anyone is you. Notice your reaction to this statement. The reason for this reaction is based on the programs that are running within your subconscious mind. Programs remain in place until we remove them. By including the phrases “I can’t” and “I won’t” within our programs, we think that the programs are somehow inaccessible. These phrases are actually pointing out, very strong programs, fueled by fear. Oh… so, when we hold in mind that we don’t want to do something, and reluctantly agree to do it, we are creating resistance and unlikely results for everyone involved.
Because there is always more than meets the eye in every situation, in addition to our wanting approval, we can be certain that there is also a lot of wanting control in doing things that we don’t want to do. Notice we instantly try to make up an excuse to get out of doing something. We may not realize this, but that is our trying to control the situation. Making up excuses is also trying to figure out what to do to get out of the doing that thing. By making up excuses, we may make our self sick… or create family members to be sick… or create problems with our cars, home, job, or something out of the ordinary to assist us in getting out of doing what we reluctantly agreed to doing. Remember, the mind is only creative. We all have done this at some time. And the reason why we act in this manner is because we are in AGFLAP and our fear programs are running. Oh yeah, because we also want to be safe, and reluctantly agree to doing a suggested task is also an indication of programs running. If we don’t do it, we’ll be sorry… We keep replaying these same dramas in our lives, over and over.
Ok enough! That was what we did prior to learning how to release. As releasers, when we don’t want to do something we can now stop this cycle by doing Attachments/Aversions or the “What’s good? /what’s bad?” exercises. Our getting hootless about doing or not doing the task helps us to make the right decision for us. We can politely suggest that we’ll get back to the requester later in the day or tomorrow with our decision. We don’t have to feel compelled to do something if we really don’t want to do it. We created these challenges for our self, so why not see what is really going on. We can ask our self, “What’s the worst thing that can happen?” if we say yes or if we say no. Again we see our wanting approval, wanting control, and wanting to be safe. Once we make the decision to be done with this pattern, and we begin releasing the limitations, we’ll feel more empowered. We are taking back our power (from our ego) and seeing who really is in charge. The folks that are showing us what we are holding in mind will actually begin to transform their behaviors, in relation, to our corrected thinking. Just about now your ego may be telling you that cleaning up on this issue is not a good idea. Thank you ego, we no longer need your help. I’m in charge! I’m the boss! Please let go of any disapproval of your ego and send it love. Actually send your ego a lot of love, as love is an abundant resource.
Under no circumstances is it ever a good idea to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. When we are in resentment, our thoughts trail this energy and we are making a bad situation worse. If we are acting out negatively, we are hosting a victory for our ego. Oops! We now know where real approval comes from, and that we can be in control, and that we can be safe. Our ego wants approval. It also wants control and it definitely wants to be safe. Yes, the ego wants to be safe. It’s pretty funny to look at things this way and realize that the “record and playback unit” wants to be safe. We obviously see that none of this is our real self. When we are all loving, we experience peaceful and harmonious interactions. Perhaps we might have an intention to have “peaceful and harmonious” outcomes at all times. Oh, so this suggestion is showing us when we decide to do things differently, we immediately begin to experience better results. By taking responsibility for our programs and patterns helps us to see the purpose of why we agree to do things that we don’t want to do. Host a victory for yourself… your real Omniscient, Omnipotent, and Omnipresent self. It’s either a victory for FREEDOM or a victory for garbage. It’s your decision… It’s all a decision…