So often we believe love comes from others. We believe if we act a certain way and do or not do something will cause others to respond by loving us. We have the ability, right in this moment, to connect with the wonderful, amazing power of LOVE! This amazing power is abundantly available and the most important and valuable gift that we can give to ourselves. We don’t have to do anything for love except recognize where real love comes from. Real love comes from you! Real love is what we do when we are taking care of ourselves. If we can’t accept this right now in this moment, we are spending our time looking for love where it isn’t. Love isn’t an option like a commodity on the stock exchange or an item you include on your grocery list. Love isn’t a deal. Love is none of these things. Love is a wonderful, healthy ability to be in courageousness, acceptance and peace with our Self. Love is, and always will be, the most powerful energy in the universe. When we love ourselves, we are calmer, happier, confident and more secure. When loving, we are considerate and much gentler in the way we approach people and situations. To prove this, take a moment and think of someone or something that you love. Think of a special someone, or perhaps an animal, a favorite location, or maybe even something like a hobby such as painting or fishing. Did you notice no one gave you anything? You weren’t rewarded with anything other than the feeling of what is inside of you. Therefore, the love you are looking for isn’t in people, places or things. It’s in how we feel about these matters that count.
Now take a moment and see if you have a similar feeling of love towards yourself. If yes, well that’s terrific! If no, then perhaps now would be a good time to realize that if you aren’t feeling good or loving towards yourself, well then maybe it’s time to change what you are holding in mind. If you aren’t feeling good about the person in the mirror, trust that no one outside of you can give you what you are lacking. Hopefully you’ve also noticed, that when feeling dislike or disapproval that these feelings also came from within you. Knowing this, may help you to see that the feeling of dislike is what is preventing us from enjoying being in your own company. When we don’t like how we feel, we have a tendency to cover up those not-so-good feelings with things like overeating, spending too much time in bed (on the internet / on the phone, etc.), complaining, escaping, reaching for a cigarette or a cocktail (other unhealthy substance). Some folks think that shopping will fix the blahs. Although this is fun and enjoyable activity, if we are overspending or consoling ourselves with things, this activity is no longer a creative outlet. Overspending becomes another escape and is both destructive and abusive behavior. The overspending habit, whether online or at the mall is an indication that we aren’t acting in a loving way towards ourselves. Competing with the Jones’ also never makes us feel better.
Understanding what real love is, and “how to have it” becomes apparent to each of us the more we work with the Release Technique exercises. This work has us prove to ourselves that we can rely on our own good judgment. The method proves itself each time we challenge ourselves to participate in an exercise, teleconference, workshop or retreat. This work helps us to become aware of our own limiting excuses by showing us “how to” identify what we are holding in mind. When we take 100% responsibility for our feelings and circumstances, we instantly move into a more powerful and loving position. By taking responsibility, and recognizing that we are the only ones complicating our lives, allows us to make better choices. Therefore, if we did it, we can undo it by loving ourselves. By identifying with the love that is already available and within each of us, helps us to feel better. Love is being positive. Whenever we are looking to get rid of something is an aversion (i.e. excess weight, debt, health issues, etc.), we are holding onto the problem instead of moving towards the resolution of the problem. By loving what we have created, we are demonstrating that we are willing to move on. We are willing to have a different outcome.
The only way to overcome an unwanted situation is to “love it fully!” Lester Levenson says, “When the love is complete, the problem will immediately dissolve!” The problem dissolves because we made a decision to be at peace with the situation and released our non-loving thoughts and feelings in relation to the story. Our ability to discriminate is moving into courageousness. Then we decide to be at peace or hootless about a situation, we are locking Step No. 1 of the method into place. We are also declaring “Nothing is going to stop me for achieving my goal!” By letting go of being stuck in fear or resistance helps us to take ownership of the matter. We are moving towards the aversion. Each time we move towards an aversion, fear or resistance, we are strengthening our desire for FREEDOM and eliminating more of the perceived hold that our ego has over us. By moving up and letting go of ‘wanting to change’ and ‘wanting to figuring-things-out,’ instantly moves us into acceptance. In acceptance, we realize that there is nothing to change. When we let go of wanting (approval, control or safety/security), we are letting go of lack. Each time we release, we are moving into harmony and into the power of love. Releasing is actually incorporating all of the Six-steps each time we release. In Step No. 6 we are reinforcing, “That each time we release, we are getting happier and lighter!” Each release is a decision which strengthens our ability and perception to experience moving into a reality of having – being – doing. We experience improved relationships, increased finances, healthier and vibrant bodies, more joy and excellence in our all areas of our lives. Releasing is Love. Do yourself the biggest favor imaginable and begin to love everything in your life! If you haven’t attended a Live Wednesday night call recently, or participated in a “Live” class, please make it a point to join us. By choosing to continue releasing, will undo the lack, the frustration and misery. Do what works! Love yourself and let the world have it your way!